Aug 302014
Dunkin' in the window

Dunkin’ is overseeing his territory.

Many people get off track when it comes to keeping their priorities in order. What are  your priorities? Well, if you have a spouse and children, they should be high on the list, because they are your territory. One-on-one time with family is so important.

There are many people hurrying from one supposedly important activity or deadline to the next, only to have the deadlines and activities continually cycle, and never reach a stopping point where you can rest and enjoy those who matter.

You need to watch over your territory and see that it is cared for.  If that’s where you are, consider who you are leaving behind or shutting out to make time for these other things. If it is your spouse or children, better reconsider the path you are taking.

Territories are your home-base, your  family and those that you care deeply about. Guard them and don’t allow them to be cast aside in your pursuit of things that may seem important.  Life is short. Children are grown seemingly overnight.                                                                                                               -Nealie

Are You Standing in the Shade?

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Aug 292014
Standing in the shade

Standing in the Shade

Sometimes we try to do it all ourselves, because we know how to do it best -or so we think. I know that I’m guilty of that at times.

It may be time to enlist the help of others in your difficult situation. Or it may be time to realize that you are not the only person who cares, and that your way isn’t always best.

What comes to my mind is Psalm 91. King David spoke about being under a shadow, which is shade.  The ultimate shade.                                                                                                             😎   -Nealie

Aug 282014

My Parents once paid for a bus tour that included touring an area of interest to them.  The bus made stops at different places. The passengers would all get off to see the local sights, and then return at a set time for another leg of the tour. 

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After a while, the bus pulled to a stop at a casino. The doors opened, and all the passengers began to disembark. My Dad told me later that they did not want to go to a casino, and they hadn’t realized that it was on the trips’s agenda. There was no opting out, so they got off and spent three hours in a place that they would have rather not have been.

Parenting a special needs child is like that sometimes. It’s not a place you would have thought you’d visit. It’s a place where you would rather just stay on the bus and pass on that one. But it’s a place where you are. Might as well get off and make the best of it.

Life has a way of sharpening us and making us better people if we’ll just get off the bus. In more ways than one, you might even hit the jackpot.  –Nealie

Aug 272014


Birthday Letters

Birthday Letters

A dear friend used to write birthday letters to her children on their earliest birthdays. Of course, the children were too young to read what she had written, but she saved them until a time came when they could.

When the heart is full, you must write! I love the idea of capturing on paper what will be more difficult to put into words later.

This little granddaughter will be two next month.  Parents, does that make you want to pick up a pen or sit to type? I hope so.   -Nealie

Okey’s Promise

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Aug 262014

“Some say that domestic violence and child abuse are more important concerns to address than the needs of animals. Here is the truth.  When animals are suffering in society, children are too. When there is violence to animals, there is likely violence to children and others who may be defenseless.” ~ Artist BZTAT

Okey's Promise

This is a picture of Okey. It was painted by artist BZ TAT

Okey’s Promise, named for a small rescued cat, is a public art initiative designed to create awareness about the connections between animal maltreatment, child abuse and domestic violence. It’s purpose is to create public artworks to bring the awareness to a national and global audience. (Watch the video for the first project that explains the genesis of Okey’s Promise.”

That was written by artist BZTAT.  She is absolutely right about the connection between violence to children and violence to pets. We saw that in Lilly’s life in Chasing Lilly.

Early interventions are needed to protect these children, pets, and society, as these children grow and mature into people who may be a danger to those around them.

Aug 252014

My five-year-old grandson, Tommy, didn’t want to go to kindergarten. He was quite happy in his own little world at home with Mommy.  He resisted the idea until the first day actually came, and he was swept into the kindergarten classroom.

When he got home that afternoon, he was proud that he had done it and announced cheerfully to his mother, “That wasn’t so bad!”

Imagine how shocked he was to find out that there was more to it than that. The experience was not over -it was just beginning, and he had to return to school the next day. And the next.

Let’s not tell him that at the very least, school will continue for the next twelve years. As I said in Chasing Lilly, “Sometimes it’s better not to know.”    😥  -Nealie

Time for a Treasure Hunt!

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Aug 242014
The Icelectron Treasure Hunt for ages 9-13. A real brain-teaser!

An ebook that uses a pen and paper to solve a treasure hunt. A real brain-teaser for children ages 9-13.


If you get tired of seeing your kids glued to that electronic device, you will love this brain-teaser that requires a pen and paper as well as the electronics.  For kids ages 9-13, The Icelectron Treasure Hunt includes note-taking, math, and some extreme thinking to finish the course to the treasure.

The Icelectron Treasure Hunt would be perfect for a road trip or boring afternoon, because it takes 30-60 minutes to complete, depending on ability.

This will be an ebook very soon. Stay posted!   Love my readers,  -Nealie

Chasing Lilly Currriculum

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Aug 232014

Wish that I could put a cover photo of Chasing Lilly up for you to see it, but I don’t know what it will look like. (That day is coming!)

In the meantime, I am beginning plans for a short curriculum to go along with the book for the smart profs who decide to implement Chasing Lilly as part of the course work for Interventions Specialties, and any other field that deals with traumatized children.

I could use some suggestions about what you think should be included in such a curriculum. Please in-box me on facebook or leave a comment here, if you’d rather.

I appreciate my readers!  -Nealie   😯

Well said, Frances Wells Burck!

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Aug 222014

In the end I did find the secret, and it was this:  There is no one secret way to be a ‘good’ mother. Each of us has to invent motherhood for herself and invent it over and over and over as we move forward through it. -Frances Wells Burck  

Parenting the RAD and ODD Child

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Aug 212014
disguised granddaughter RAD ODD Parenting

Disguised Granddaughter

Parenting the child with Reactive Attachment Disorder or Oppositional Defiant Disorder doesn’t always look like the parenting of a child who hasn’t experienced trauma.

The loving parameters are set even though the shake-ups never seem to end. Parenting a “normal” child is difficult enough, but the parents of these other kids must invent their parenting continually, and it doesn’t always look like “good” parenting to the general public.

It’s disguised sometimes and appears uncaring, hardened, or even abusive at times.

I shared a part of my story in Chasing Lilly (on facebook) and tell about a time that we had new friends over for dinner. The man was appalled that we wouldn’t allow Lilly to join us at the table during the meal.

You never know what’s behind the glasses, as in my picture here. What that man didn’t see was the fact that Lilly had destroyed a pie, written on furniture, spit in defiance, and she had already eaten her dinner before they came. But she was as sweet as a puppy while they were there, which made us appear to be hard-hearted.

That’s one reason I wrote Chasing Lilly. People need to know that someone’s parenting is not always what you see. And that can go both ways.  -Nealie