Oct 282014

My grandson Tommy, has always loved being chased through the house when he comes over. It’s just a thing I do with the little ones. We go round and round through the rooms, and when I catch them, they get a big squeeze and then take off running again. They never seem to tire of the game, but I run out of energy after a while.

Tommy went through a phase where he would smile at me and say, “Chase me!”

When he would say that, I think that he wanted the affirmation that he was worth chasing, and he was valued. Of course, I had to chase him -even if it was only briefly.

*Lilly didn’t often want hugged, but if I followed her when she ran, then she knew that I valued her enough to go after her. Eventually she learned that I would always go after her, even if it meant enlisting the police to help me.

Kids need physical interactions with us. They need the hugs and the chases. They need to know that they are valued.  😯 Nealie

*Parts of Chasing Lilly are on Facebook at Author Nealie Rose.


The Road to Foster Care and Adoption

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Oct 272014

Ever considered fostering or adopting? Here is an informative 5 minute video that will fill in some gaps for you. It doesn’t obligate you in any way to learn more. It could be that you have a special child in your future, who is waiting on you to look into this.  💡 Nealie

PS I am going to begin posting on Tuesdays and Fridays from here on. Stay tuned!

Oct 242014

2 ingredientsWhen I first saw this extremely easy recipe last year, I couldn’t believe my eyes -two ingredients? No eggs, no oil, no water. These are so easy for a child to mix up and help make, so try them soon.                               PUMPKIN COOKIES (preheat oven to 350)

1 -Box Spice Cake Mix

1 -15 ounce can Pumpkin

Directions: Mix with a fork or spoon until most lumps are gone. Drop by rounded tablespoonfuls onto a greased cookie sheet. Dampen fingers lightly to flatten some. Bake at 350 for 18-20 minutes, depending on size of cookie. I ice them with cream cheese icing and top with walnuts, but they are great plain. You can add other optional ingredients to the batter, like chocolate chips, cranberries, raisin, or nuts. Yields 36-40 cookies.2 ingredient pumpkin cookies


(recipe from The Repository: Saimi Bergmann)

Oct 222014

Hi Readers! I used to sew cute outfits for my kids when they were little. I remember making a jumpsuit for Joy and putting it on her over a long-sleeved shirt that matched. She was about 11 months old, and sure looked cute in it.

It turned out to be a particularly difficult day, because she cried and fussed for hours. I could not figure out what was wrong. I checked her diaper, took her temperature, gave her gas medicine, etc.

Sometimes it doesn’t matter how adorable a child looks, if they won’t stop the fussing you feel like going crazy. Finally, at the end of an extremely long day, I undressed Joy to get her ready for bed. I was shocked to see bright red scratches on the top of each shoulder. I had forgotten to take the straight-pins out of the inside straps when I sewed the jumpsuit! Poor little Joy had endured pins jabbing her all day, and I had no idea. I felt so bad!

When you are going about your life this week and run into someone who is uncharacteristically fussy or or not quite themselves, be patient with them. They may have some unseen scratches that we will never know about. That goes for our children as well, because we don’t know what they may have faced on the playground or an embarrassment that may have happened at school.  💡  Nealie

Wasted Love?

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Oct 212014

When Torie was 15 and planning a trip to summer camp with her friends, I wanted to send her off with a ton of love. I baked one hundred and sixty cut-out sugar cookies, all decorated with different colored icing and sprinkles. They were in different fun shapes, and it took me two whole days to make them.

I carefully packed them into two big containers, and they were loaded in a lower outside compartment of the bus, with all the luggage. It made me happy to be able to do that for her.

When Torie got home at the end of the week, guess what I found out? The cookies weren’t removed from the storage compartment when they got to camp, and the bus had driven away with them. She didn’t get them back until camp was over, and she was on her way home in the same bus.

I could not believe that all that love and work had been wasted, and I was disappointed. But really, it wasn’t wasted. Just like with our Reactive Attachment Disorder kids who don’t accept our love, sometimes our love seems wasted, but we try. Over and over. As parents of these damaged children, we have to continue to provide proof of our love, only for it to sometimes take years for them to actually accept it. I am here to tell you the journey is worth it. Don’t give up! ➡ Nealie

Oct 202014

I follow John M. Simmon’s blog. He is a foster and adoptive parent who knows so much, and he has been through a lot with his kids. The following article on his blog tells more about RAD. Parenting an RAD child is frightful and fascinating, and requires determination, patience, and love to make inroads and see healing. Take a minute to read it. -Nealie

Oct 172014

Easy Tamale Pie -One of Lilly’s Favorite Recipes 

This recipe is so easy for kids to help make. It’s basically mixing together opened cans of ingredients and stirring in taco meat. A lovely top layer of heavenly browned cornbread makes this a stand-out  for a fast  and easy meal.  6-8 servings     (9×13″pan) Preheat oven to 325.

tamalie pie

Tamalie Pie

Tamalie Pie


1-pound ground turkey or beef, cooked with one pkg. taco seasoning. Drain any grease.

1 can whole kernel corn in liquid

1 can diced tomatoes in liquid or same amount of salsa -your choice

Optional: 1 can rinsed and drained black beans. (We don’t use beans.)

You can adjust any amounts of the corn, tomatoes and beans to suit your family’s tastes.

Put all these together in the 9×13 pan and cook at 325 degrees until hot and bubbly, (about 20-30) minutes. Remove from oven and pour corn bread *topping mixture over top and cook until browned, (about 20 minutes). Serve with Shredded Cheddar cheese, and sour cream, olives -whatever you like.

*TOPPING: (1) Box Jiffy corn mix, made with 3/4 cup of milk and one egg. Mix this up while the Tamale Pie is baking.

P.S. I first had this dish at my Gram’s house. She is 98 right now, and reads my blogs. 🙂


Oct 162014

There’s a lot of talk about ADHD these days. It stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. ADHD is  a problem of not being able to focus, being overactive, not being able to control behavior, or a combination of these. Click on the underlined link to read 7 facts about ADHD that you need to know.

Any of my readers have experience with ADHD? Do you see an increase in it these days? Do you think it is a catch-all term for challenged children? Your thoughts and comments are welcome, but please read the link first.  🙂 Nealie