Phone Calls


I could tell it was Lilly by the number on my phone…

“Hi Lilly, how are you?”

“Mom, you won’t believe what I just found,” she said.

Always curious I asked, “What?”

“Girl, I was stressing out that I lost my phone, but I found it in my coat pocket.”


Lilly has a way of talking that cracks me up!

She still loves the leopard print shoes, sunglasses, clothes, hair dye, and any and all bling.

That gets a little scary when we go out because she isn’t able to process why she gets so many looks from people, and sometimes gets angry when someone (who she deems suspicious) stares at her.

Now if it’s a cute male, she basks in the glow of his stares and stares back. (Me? I just want to get the meal over and leave!)


Sometimes she’ll call and sound off about something that I cannot fix. Those calls usually end with her hanging up on me after she says, “You are making me really mad, and I am saying goodbye now.” Click.

I think it’s great that Lilly is learning to express herself without profanities, don’t you? But I’m pretty sure the words she wants to let loose on me are often directed toward staff after the call. Oh well.

A daily call to or from Lilly is the norm here. During this time of quarantines and distancing we are talking more than once some days, but the problem becomes what is there to talk about? It’s not exactly like life is overflowing with exciting happenings these days. I did tell her yesterday that because of the quarantines we wouldn’t be able to see her for Easter, and she burst into tears and said goodbye.

That was not a great subject to bring up, but unfortunately this is how life is right now. If any of you have any interesting news that I could relay to her, tell me, please. I’m running out of things to talk to Lilly about, lol! When you don’t leave the house there aren’t many things to see. These times are challenging in many ways, including daily phone calls.

I’m definitely not sitting around all day, but the things I do on a daily basis are not interesting to Lilly, and we can only talk about the cat (who sleeps all day) so many times. 🙂 Sometimes talking about a family member that she misses makes it worse, because she feels left out of the loop. I struggle with what to share sometimes because Lilly truly is sensitive.

Suggestions are welcome!

Love my readers, Nealie



What, No Pizza?


Lilly is lamenting the fact that we can’t go to her facility, but more importantly, neither can the pizza delivery person!

Her facility is on a lock-down for precautions against you-know-what. She understands. I understand. (That doesn’t help much, does it?)

Actually, I am quite proud of her maturity in all of this. I’ve heard of grown adults with supposedly greater intelligence behaving terribly.

The real problem is boredom, though, because she can’t go to her day programming, out shopping, or eating out. Lilly likes to watch TV, and thankfully that’s still available, because reading as a pastime is difficult for her, so that’s out.

Speaking of reading, yesterday Lilly called me and said she wanted to read something wonderful to me. That was surprising in itself, so I was all ears. Lilly struggled to sound out the words to the little story about the thousands of starfish washed up on the beach. I think you may remember hearing it, how a little boy picked them up one at a time and threw them back into the sea. A man came by and said there were so many that it didn’t matter, but the little boy tossed another starfish into the water and said, “I made a difference for that one!”  (The Starfish Story by: Loren Eisley)

Lilly was so touched by that short story. Does she realize that she is one of those little starfish, or does she think she is the one making the difference? Interesting question, and I feel for certain her answer would be…

…that she is the one making the difference. 🙂

And isn’t that pretty neat?

Love my readers, Nealie