Category: Foster children

Some School Notes From 18 Years Ago

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I came across a “back and forth” notebook from when Lilly was in first grade. The teacher communicated with me by writing things in it and sending it home with Lilly. I’d read her notes, and reply back by adding my own. It was a great system.

As you all know, Lilly often got dirty, covered with food, and sometimes snot, lol! Here’s a note I wrote to the teacher on picture day:

“A Big P.S.  Please don’t turn in my $17 picture check if Lilly gets to be a mess before the picture! Send it home and I’ll take her to K-Mart.”

And, haha, we see how it went when I read the next entry: “Thank you for rescuing my check yesterday.” 🙂

I used to send extra clothes to school, but they were clothes that were very hard to get off. Another note to the teacher about them:

“Here is Lilly’s second outfit. She told me that if she ever has to wear it she’ll throw up on it so she can take it off. She can make herself throw up, too.”

The teacher wrote back: “Thanks for the warning. She has all kinds of talents, huh?”

Another entry from me:

Hi (Teacher), Lots of downers this weekend. Lilly was very hard to figure out. Saturday she tried to kick in her door and broke things. The little green glow stick prizes that she earned ended up (with green glow liquid) on the walls; she ate some, threw some in the toilet, etc. Sunday Lilly kicked and hit her Sunday School teacher and swore a blue streak. She hid under a big table there and cut five fingers on a piece of metal under it. Then last night Lilly threw a waste basket, spit at me, and tried to bite me twice. Sooo…I hope you have a great day! I need a break! :)”

That teacher understood me. I couldn’t worry about what happened at school. We all did our best, and I learned that while Lilly was away at  school to enjoy my day and take a break from stress. I’ll post more another time.

By the way, Lilly is doing pretty good and is in a great residential facility.

Love my readers,

Nealie

 

 

 

Lilly’s Holiday Notes

We had a great Christmas holiday, and I wanted to share some inspiring things that Lilly wrote in a couple cards.

(I’ll interpret her handwriting below.)

The top note was written to me. Lilly says, “You raised me the best that you can…thank you…I know we had our differences but we still love each other.”   Boy, did we have our differences, lol, but isn’t that sweet?

The bottom note she wrote to a young relative and says, “Merry Christmas ________, God love you so much. you are so different in a good way…there is no one like you….go ahead and shine….you are so smart…don’t let anyone tell you different. Love you so much, Lilly.”

What’s happening in this note is that Lilly is pouring some good (that people have told her about herself) into this tween’s life! She is giving him a pep talk. How precious this is, and reminds me that what we say matters so much.

Love my Readers,

Nealie