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Lilly and the Quarantine


Lilly has had a tougher time than most of the population during this virus chapter of our lives. She is in a facility where only the staff are allowed to come and go. The clients have not left their respective buildings (except to walk around the parking lot) since this all began.

And I am so proud of her! It’s been amazing, actually! Bruce and I sent her some things we purchased online to help the time go faster. Boredom has been the main issue, so we sent table games and DVD’s.

Other clients/peers are getting on her nerves. I get that…We are all experiencing a little (or a lot) of stir-crazy.

Daily phone calls help break things up, but there isn’t as much going on to talk about.We just started using DUO, a face-to-face on the phone. And cards and letters.

Here is a recent letter from Lilly, and I’ll type it for you:

hi Mom and dad

i Just wanted to say thank you For the 10.00 doller.s

that mines aLot to me.

And i miss you guys aLot.

you are the Best that i had.

i no we did Not see eye to eye But i still Love you guys.

Nothing beats getting a letter like that. I love the not seeing eye-to-eye comment…No kidding, lol!!

Stay healthy and safe. Love my readers,



Phone Calls


I could tell it was Lilly by the number on my phone…

“Hi Lilly, how are you?”

“Mom, you won’t believe what I just found,” she said.

Always curious I asked, “What?”

“Girl, I was stressing out that I lost my phone, but I found it in my coat pocket.”


Lilly has a way of talking that cracks me up!

She still loves the leopard print shoes, sunglasses, clothes, hair dye, and any and all bling.

That gets a little scary when we go out because she isn’t able to process why she gets so many looks from people, and sometimes gets angry when someone (who she deems suspicious) stares at her.

Now if it’s a cute male, she basks in the glow of his stares and stares back. (Me? I just want to get the meal over and leave!)


Sometimes she’ll call and sound off about something that I cannot fix. Those calls usually end with her hanging up on me after she says, “You are making me really mad, and I am saying goodbye now.” Click.

I think it’s great that Lilly is learning to express herself without profanities, don’t you? But I’m pretty sure the words she wants to let loose on me are often directed toward staff after the call. Oh well.

A daily call to or from Lilly is the norm here. During this time of quarantines and distancing we are talking more than once some days, but the problem becomes what is there to talk about? It’s not exactly like life is overflowing with exciting happenings these days. I did tell her yesterday that because of the quarantines we wouldn’t be able to see her for Easter, and she burst into tears and said goodbye.

That was not a great subject to bring up, but unfortunately this is how life is right now. If any of you have any interesting news that I could relay to her, tell me, please. I’m running out of things to talk to Lilly about, lol! When you don’t leave the house there aren’t many things to see. These times are challenging in many ways, including daily phone calls.

I’m definitely not sitting around all day, but the things I do on a daily basis are not interesting to Lilly, and we can only talk about the cat (who sleeps all day) so many times. 🙂 Sometimes talking about a family member that she misses makes it worse, because she feels left out of the loop. I struggle with what to share sometimes because Lilly truly is sensitive.

Suggestions are welcome!

Love my readers, Nealie