Hi Friends and Readers,
Here’s an update on Lilly. 🙂 She will be in a community in a house with several other developmentally disabled women soon. There is so much preparation going into a move like this! Furniture and pots and pans are just a small part of the big picture. Most concerning is the location, and the staffing that will oversee the occupants, and how the occupants will get along with each other.
A poor location would be one too close to the interstate, because if Lilly decided to take off it would be dangerous, as it would be too easy for her to disappear.
The neighbors are also a consideration. Is everyone jammed close together and in everybody’s business? Is there enough room in the house for all intended occupants and their stuff?
One thing that we have to consider is that Lilly doesn’t do well with people who “dog her,” as she says, which means they run their mouth all the time and can’t mind their own business. 🙂
Many of you will have kids who will be in the community at some point as they get older, and when your kid is DD, it’s pretty scary! We have been through this five times now, and Lilly has never been succesful for long, but we keep trying, and hope that THIS time everything will be more “Lilly-friendly.” We are learning, too, what makes things more successful, and what makes for disaster.
When it comes time for your child to be in the community, consider these things:
If your kid can’t stay out of McDonald’s, then make sure there isn’t one in the neighborhood.
Are the neighbors too close?
Is it easy for you to get to?
Is the neighborhood safe? Check online for registered preditors. Drive the neighborhood a couple times to see what it’s like in the daytime as well as the evening.
Choose a company that has a good online rating. Read the reviews. There are lots of staffing companies out there, and a few have no business being in business. Do they do background checks and drug tests? Dig a little.
The staffing company will most likely want all the bedrooms in the home filled with other clients. Ask them to introduce your child beforehand to prospective housemates to see if they “click.” It is good procedure for all involved.
If I can be of any help, email me at email@example.com.
PS: PRAYERS for Lilly’s successful transition are sooooo appreciated! 🙂