Remember the swimming pool mental picture from Chasing Lilly?
Picture an empty swimming pool in your mind. It represents a damaged child’s life. Then someone dumps a bucket of dirt into the pool. That dirt is the abuse and trauma experienced by the child.
Your job as a healer is to dilute the dirt by adding bucket after bucket of (healing) “water” by loving and connecting with that child.
The trauma (dirt) is still there, and always will be in that pool, but the healing water of goodness, love, and acceptance will dilute the the bad things, and that child will be empowered to have a better life.
The healing will take much longer than the period of abuse did. Sometimes it takes forever.
Forever is a long time, but if I have done anything in my life, let it be that I have helped an injured child heal.
But not at the cost of damaging and traumatizing other children. That’s the catch.
You must protect other children from being harmed, and don’t assume that kids are resilient and everything will be okay, just like you don’t assume that your pets will be fine without added protection.
P.S. Don’t you just love Ari Kuzmik’s art? 🙂