I went to a recent fund-raiser that had an afternoon lunch and an auction. I wanted to participate in the auction, but the directions didn’t make any sense to me, so I asked for a second explanation of how the auction rules worked. It was different than anything I had ever heard of, and my mind wasn’t grasping it, so I opted out and gave a donation instead.
It turned out that someone else sitting at my table didn’t understand the rules, either, which helped me not feel so DENSE! Don’t you hate it when you just don’t get something? It could be a computer skill thing, a new game, or a car repair explanation.
There may be a back-story behind some mental freeze-ups, though. Maybe you were embarrassed because you didn’t understand a game as a child and others made fun of you. So now you hate to play games for fear that you may be embarrassed, and you’re forty years old.
My back-story is that thirty years ago I went to an auction with Bruce, and we just watched everything going on, because we were new to auctions. When it was over, a man told us where we could pick up our purchases and pay. What? We didn’t bid on anything! Or so we thought. It turned out that we had accidentally bid on two small furniture items. Thank goodness that we had the money. I still have one of the pieces to remind me. 🙂
It’s the same with the traumatized kids that we try to work with and love. They may have a back-story that causes them to behave in certain ways, and react in a totally unexpected way in some situations. Remember empathy and patience as you help them have successes. And never take them to an auction. Just kidding! -Nealie