That’s a picture of me poppin’ a wheelie!
What did I do that’s so great? I stuck it out with Lilly, even though some may say I gave up when she moved from our home to a facility.
I’m still here, 19 years later, talking to her almost daily on the phone, and seeing her when we can.
Having Lilly go to a facility was the only option for her safety and the safety of others.
It could have been Lilly beating me up, or me beating myself up for “giving up,” but actually neither has happened. It is what it is, and we stay safe physically , mentally, and emotionally.
There’s a book called The Connected Child. (It’s listed in my references.) There is so much in it that can help a traumatized child, and I encourage you to read it. I wish we’d had it as a resource early on, but we didn’t.
But, I don’t believe our outcome would have changed, because Lilly can be dangerous, and I (we) need to be able to sleep at night. Not, “Lilly, we are working on your healing, so please don’t attack me until it’s complete.”
We made the right decision. Lilly doesn’t have a bad life at all. She has a different life, because it’s one designed around safety for all.