Credit Due

big snowflakesSee the huge snowflakes? It was one of those lazy, fluffy snows today. Just wonderful.

I was watching the slowly falling snow and thinking about how people seem to be blown away by the perseverance that I showed in the Chasing Lilly story. (Bruce gets credit for that, too. He supported me all the way.) Most who’ve read the story say that they could never foster or adopt -it would be way too hard for them. I understand, but remember that our story was very unusual, to say the least, and does not reflect most fostering-challenge scenarios. Don’t be afraid to foster. If your heart is tugging at you, then do it.

We are all gifted for certain things. I could never play an instrument with any level of skill, because I’ve never been wired to play one, and I don’t have the dedication or drive to do it. That is one example among hundreds, and is exactly why we need to remember that we all have a part to play in making the world a better place for traumatized children. Your part may be much different than mine, but there is SOMETHING that you can do.

I made a list of  people who helped us along the way with Lilly, and they played an integral part. Feel free to comment or add more:

Social workers, police, teachers, neighbors, doctors and nurses, praying friends and family, court-appointed guardian, therapists, counselors, paramedics . . .  and don’t forget the people who donated time and/or money to The Center for Helping Children (CHC).

Surely you can see yourself here somewhere! If you do, THANK YOU, we couldn’t have done it without you. -Nealie




  1. helena phillips says:

    In the past I used to think I would like to foster a child, but never felt that my husband was “wired” that way, so settled by sponsoring a World Vision child, down thru the years, even currently. I admire people that do foster and adopt.

    • NealieRose says:

      Child sponsorship is one way to make a difference! I like that there is a connection through photos and letters, even though it takes months for them to get to the child. We have a little girl in Malawi. I had no idea where that was at the time, but I do now. Where have your children been from?

  2. sherree rummer says:

    Simply just taking time out to visit, or just listening to a child may not seem all that significant, but I feel it just may be a matter of life and death for them when they are needing support.

    Sometimes I can’t help but wonder if it is not some of us that have the DE-tachment disorder. I know I have been guilty of this. GOD BLESS LILLY!!!

    • NealieRose says:

      You have that right. We often struggle to actually listen to people around us, and sometimes kids get the short end of the stick. 🙂 Nealie

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