Category: Fostering

We Found It!


Hi Friends and Readers!

It’s been a while since you’ve heard from me. My news seems so small compared to the world news, but I’m reporting nonetheless.

It hit me today that Lilly has found the perfect residential center. She has lived there about a year now, and I have absolutely no complaints.

Now that’s news. The problem is that I cannot share where that place is because of Lilly’s privacy concerns.

So what is the difference between THIS place and the five (or six?) other residential settings where Lilly has lived?

A big difference is location. It is away from the big cities where most of the other places were. I have a theory, too, about it:

Life is slower in a country or rural setting, and the employees are more relaxed and happy. They seem like an entire different species of people! They smile. They aren’t so rushed. They actually seem to care more, and I think they that really do. The employees treat Lilly and each other with respect.

So now that we have the perfect place, and Lilly has done so well (because she is able to relax and feel safe), guess what unfortunately comes next?

…Being moved out of this center and moved into another less expensive place somewhere. Of course.

If I can thank the COVID19 crisis for anything, (imagine that), it would be because it’s holding up Lilly’s next move. For until most restrictions are removed, she gets to stay put.

I’ve been thinking a lot about how things could have been so much better for Lilly (way before now) if the places she lived were designed and run differently. I’d like to share my ideas about what “that place” looks like (to me) in the near future.

Maybe it could really happen someday.

Love my Readers,







Trauma Father’s Day


With Father’s Day coming up fast, I wanted to say something. I know it’s the “moms” who usually get the worst of it with the trauma kids, but not always. Out there are lots of fathers who are pulling a heavy load, too, and they need acknowledged.

We see you and appreciate and love you, Trauma Dads!

Lilly sent a letter to Bruce that said: (you can translate)

happy daddy.s day.s

Love you with all my herat

you are my rock

She has a way with words, don’t ya think?

Hats off to the Dads!