Category: Life’s Difficulties

Lilly has a Boyfriend




Lilly has made a great friend, and he has also been her boyfriend for about 5 months.

Dustin (not his real name) is on the same residential campus as Lilly, but in a different building. Dustin has a disability as well, and behavioral issues, but he and Lilly are on the same level when it comes to shooting the breeze and having some fun.

They have been able to have “dates” on campus in a pavilion, where Lilly brings some pizza or snacks and they eat and talk for a couple hours and sometimes play¬† basketball.

Dustin has proposed to Lilly, and she said yes. Then she changed her mind. Lilly wonders how they could live without staff helping them, and also wonders if Dustin would be able to keep her safe. Pretty remarkable that she would consider such important things, huh?

You may have 20 questions right now, but this is beyond me…who would have thought? I doubt it could work out, but I don’t want to voice that to her. Better she reach that conclusion on her own. I just try to listen.

Lilly wants all the things that other young women want. She wants to work a job, drive a car, find love, etc. And she gets sooooo angry when she sees that life has dealt her an unfair hand when it comes to realizing her dreams.

When you think of Lilly, say a prayer for her.



Lilly and the Quarantine


Lilly has had a tougher time than most of the population during this virus chapter of our lives. She is in a facility where only the staff are allowed to come and go. The clients have not left their respective buildings (except to walk around the parking lot) since this all began.

And I am so proud of her! It’s been amazing, actually! Bruce and I sent her some things we purchased online to help the time go faster. Boredom has been the main issue, so we sent table games and DVD’s.

Other clients/peers are getting on her nerves. I get that…We are all experiencing a little (or a lot) of stir-crazy.

Daily phone calls help break things up, but there isn’t as much going on to talk about.We just started using DUO, a face-to-face on the phone. And cards and letters.

Here is a recent letter from Lilly, and I’ll type it for you:

hi Mom and dad

i Just wanted to say thank you For the 10.00 doller.s

that mines aLot to me.

And i miss you guys aLot.

you are the Best that i had.

i no we did Not see eye to eye But i still Love you guys.

Nothing beats getting a letter like that. I love the not seeing eye-to-eye comment…No kidding, lol!!

Stay healthy and safe. Love my readers,