Some School Notes From 18 Years Ago



I came across a “back and forth” notebook from when Lilly was in first grade. The teacher communicated with me by writing things in it and sending it home with Lilly. I’d read her notes, and reply back by adding my own. It was a great system.

As you all know, Lilly often got dirty, covered with food, and sometimes snot, lol! Here’s a note I wrote to the teacher on picture day:

“A Big P.S.  Please don’t turn in my $17 picture check if Lilly gets to be a mess before the picture! Send it home and I’ll take her to K-Mart.”

And, haha, we see how it went when I read the next entry: “Thank you for rescuing my check yesterday.” 🙂

I used to send extra clothes to school, but they were clothes that were very hard to get off. Another note to the teacher about them:

“Here is Lilly’s second outfit. She told me that if she ever has to wear it she’ll throw up on it so she can take it off. She can make herself throw up, too.”

The teacher wrote back: “Thanks for the warning. She has all kinds of talents, huh?”

Another entry from me:

Hi (Teacher), Lots of downers this weekend. Lilly was very hard to figure out. Saturday she tried to kick in her door and broke things. The little green glow stick prizes that she earned ended up (with green glow liquid) on the walls; she ate some, threw some in the toilet, etc. Sunday Lilly kicked and hit her Sunday School teacher and swore a blue streak. She hid under a big table there and cut five fingers on a piece of metal under it. Then last night Lilly threw a waste basket, spit at me, and tried to bite me twice. Sooo…I hope you have a great day! I need a break! :)”

That teacher understood me. I couldn’t worry about what happened at school. We all did our best, and I learned that while Lilly was away at  school to enjoy my day and take a break from stress. I’ll post more another time.

By the way, Lilly is doing pretty good and is in a great residential facility.

Love my readers,






  1. Jane Hake says:

    That was interesting. Work has been crazy today already and it’s only 1 o’clock. I thought I would take a break and read this while I ate lunch. Now my day doesn’t seem bad at all!!!!

  2. Deb says:

    All the years I’ve known you, I read these posts and reminisce how amazing you are and were during these pleasant but challenging times. Your gift of being an advocate for so many children will never go unnoticed. What a blessing you are to many.

    Love you. ❤️

    • NealieRose says:

      Thank you for the kind words, Deb. I mostly remember my un-amazing times, the times when I failed or could have done better…but thank you! :)<3

  3. Karla Valentine says:

    Raising a child’s with special needs is certainly a challenge. I have to say the worst I ever experienced was when the teacher would have to evacuate the classroom since Michael decided to throw a chair. He doesn’t have these issues anymore. He has learned to work through his frustrations. I have to step in occasionally to rescue his brother, since he likes to push Michael a bit too far. He attends a school that is primarily Autistic students and is faith based. I am so thankful that most days are uneventful.

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