Phone Calls


I could tell it was Lilly by the number on my phone…

“Hi Lilly, how are you?”

“Mom, you won’t believe what I just found,” she said.

Always curious I asked, “What?”

“Girl, I was stressing out that I lost my phone, but I found it in my coat pocket.”


Lilly has a way of talking that cracks me up!

She still loves the leopard print shoes, sunglasses, clothes, hair dye, and any and all bling.

That gets a little scary when we go out because she isn’t able to process why she gets so many looks from people, and sometimes gets angry when someone (who she deems suspicious) stares at her.

Now if it’s a cute male, she basks in the glow of his stares and stares back. (Me? I just want to get the meal over and leave!)


Sometimes she’ll call and sound off about something that I cannot fix. Those calls usually end with her hanging up on me after she says, “You are making me really mad, and I am saying goodbye now.” Click.

I think it’s great that Lilly is learning to express herself without profanities, don’t you? But I’m pretty sure the words she wants to let loose on me are often directed toward staff after the call. Oh well.

A daily call to or from Lilly is the norm here. During this time of quarantines and distancing we are talking more than once some days, but the problem becomes what is there to talk about? It’s not exactly like life is overflowing with exciting happenings these days. I did tell her yesterday that because of the quarantines we wouldn’t be able to see her for Easter, and she burst into tears and said goodbye.

That was not a great subject to bring up, but unfortunately this is how life is right now. If any of you have any interesting news that I could relay to her, tell me, please. I’m running out of things to talk to Lilly about, lol! When you don’t leave the house there aren’t many things to see. These times are challenging in many ways, including daily phone calls.

I’m definitely not sitting around all day, but the things I do on a daily basis are not interesting to Lilly, and we can only talk about the cat (who sleeps all day) so many times. ๐Ÿ™‚ Sometimes talking about a family member that she misses makes it worse, because she feels left out of the loop. I struggle with what to share sometimes because Lilly truly is sensitive.

Suggestions are welcome!

Love my readers, Nealie




  1. Artie says:

    You could remind her of the time you brought her into MedWorks when she was young and I had glasses on and they were bling- y! She had just gotten a new pair too and saw mine and said โ€œoh my gosh, I love your glasses!โ€. I dunno, just something I remember.

    • NealieRose says:

      Thanks, Artie, MEMORY LANE is a great idea! We need to laugh over some of those crazy old days! Maybe I’ll tell her about your tubing on the river story, lol! Thank you!

  2. Jane Hake says:

    I think it would be very hard to already be in a facility without having the ability to go out on your own. It would make visitors all the more precious. You could tell her stories about my dogs, but those would get old too. You could read an article every day that she would be interested and talk to her about it. Thatโ€™s the best I have. Take care

  3. Sherree says:

    Our neighbor has had a big fat ground hog that she has been trying to trap and get rid of for a year now. It has been hiding under her porch and occasionally our shed. She bought vegetable plants last year for her garden. She sat them on her porch and the next day they were eaten by the ground hog.

    • NealieRose says:

      Sherree, I will be certain to tell Lilly about that and see if she has any ideas for your neighbors! ๐Ÿ™‚
      (I appreciate your supporting me in phone call convos with Lilly.)

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